Hi, thanx for writing to me. I'm happy that you've put the disappointing past behind you. Lookin
g at it positively, you're now independent, free and, most importantly, happy.
The institution of marriage is man-made, that is, it is handed down through by tradition. If mar
riage happens between two persons of very different personalities and upbringing, it takes extra
ordinary patience, tolerance and magnanimity to sustain it.
Unfortunately, two persons are attracted to each other by looks and external behaviour before th
ey even consider marriage. Researchers have found that physical attraction (they even used the w
ord "lust" to re-affirm this point !) is the key factor for two persons willing to marry and ma
te.
However, their contrasting outlook regarding family and bringing up children manifests soon afte
r. Often times, the pressures of career and involvement by in-laws contribute to the disintegrat
ion of marriage. Many have learnt from bitter experience how different man and woman are in real
ity. Even in this web-site, young women look for their 白马王子, even though horses have disappe
ared from major cities nowadays, and China's monarchy was overthrown almost a century ago (since
one can't find a prince in this republic, why perpetuate a dream still, haha)